ATTENTION SEEKERS

When we see the two words attention seekers we automatically have the mindset to assume that these individuals are willing to do bad or degrading things to get attention but not all individuals seek attention by doing "bad" or degrading things. some people seek attention by engaging in more appropriate behavior such as striving for success or recognition. I would like to address both types of attention seekers and possibly explain why these people feel the need to seek attention and appraisal from others.

I would like to begin with the inappropriate behaviors of attention seeking because this is the type of behavior that should be changed into positive or appropriate behavior in an effort to at least rule out any chances of sending the wrong signals and accepting you for who you are and satisfying yourself. Jealousy, lack of self worth, arrogant or overconfident, feelings of neglect due to a lack of attention from parents as a child or being a part of an abusive household as a child and/or being Narcissist ( a personality disorder in which the person falls in love with themselves, has an inflated self worth, feels invulnerable and thinks they are better than most) are all reasons why some of us may strive for attention.

Having any of the characteristics mentioned above could make an individual act inappropriately in order to receive the attention they feel like they may have been robbed of or that may have been lacking as a child. Adults who seek attention are more than likely promiscuous, down for whatever (needing that approval or that chance to prove whatever they feel they need to prove to others), clingy, very emotional and dramatic (the dramatic part describes me to a certain degree), and being violent could play a part in seeking attention or could be due to more elevated situations or circumstances.

One thing we must always remember is that the most important approval and attention we need HAS to come from within ourselves. If we do not feel worthy of ourselves there is no way anyone else will be able to no matter how hard we try. Once you are comfortable in your own skin (and just because you have convinced yourself that you are, that does not necessarily mean that is the case because we are very good at seeing what we want to see and judging ourselves very mildly due to denial) and have faced any and all realities that are or have become a hindrance to you, you will be able to not only accurately judge yourself but you will be able to clearly see that your own approval is all that matters. Being promiscuous and doing inappropriate things will not allow others to gain respect for you. People will see you for who you display yourself as and not who you really are, so if you are okay with others seeing you as promiscuous and an easy lay then you are on the right path but if it is respect you demand then you have to first have respect for yourself.

It is okay to love yourself but not so much that you need to prove to others how much you have to offer especially if others consist of many people. Sometimes breaking away from the scene and becoming absent for a while will draw people to you in a more positive manner. When you are constantly "showing your behind" you have not only made an obstacle and a name for yourself but you have become like a rubik's cube (a little difficult and interesting at first but after a while of the same old stuff, you are now a bore and your behavior has become expected and obvious. Be daring to the point where others are curious and have the urge to know more about you, try not to give them all of you at once just because you feel you need the attention. You don't need their approval or attention as long as you have your own.

The same applies for individuals who seek attention by engaging in constructive behavior. It is great to want to strive for success and to be recognized for your hard work but DO NOT base how well and hard you strive for your own success on the reaction you may or may not receive from others and PLEASE DO NOT do things that will enable you to be recognized in a positive light just to gain the approval and appreciation of others, do what you do because you LOVE to do it and because it is what makes YOU happy. I am still working hard on taking my own advice because I have my own ways of seeking attention and now that I have been honest with myself and accepted the fact that I have these issues, I can now work on me and changing my behavior to reflect the approval, love and attention of my self first and foremost which will enable to clearly see that NEEDING that from others is no where in my dialogue. I hope that I have in some way educated and inspired some of you to be honest with yourself, accept and forgive your past differences and move on in life on a more positive note where YOU are the center and the surrounding audience of all the attention you will ever need and want. Please do not be pessimistic and assume that I am stating that you should not take into consideration the opinions and advice of others because I am not, I am simply saying that others thoughts, opinions and attention should not be the driving force behind what it is that you do.

STATEMENT OF THE DAY:

HUMAN BEINGS ARE SOCIAL CREATURES AND NEED SOCIAL INTERACTION, FEEDBACK, AND VALIDATION OF THEIR WORTH. THE EMOTIONALLY MATURE PERSON DOESN'T NEED TO GO HUNTING FOR THESE; THEY GAIN IT NATURALLY FROM THEIR OWN DAILY LIFE.

PEACE, LOVE AND BLESSINGS. ....